EP #165: The Urge to Compare and Despair in Midlife

What You’ll Learn from this Episode about the Urge to Compare & Despair:

  • Why understanding your urge to compare and despair can help you grow.
  • Why comparing yourself to others can create unnecessary negative emotion in midlife.
  • The common feelings and experiences created when you engage in “compare and despair”.
  • Why it’s common for people to take a break from social media.
  • Four ways to handle your own compare and despair cycle to create less pain for yourself.
  • Why gratitude can be a highly effective strategy to combat compare and despair.


Welcome to another episode of the Women in the Middle podcast!

Understanding your urge to “compare and despair” is important to grow. Do you “compare and despair?” It can become quite a habit in midlife that doesn’t feel good yet it can feel like quite an urge.

The tendency to engage in comparing yourself to others and then experiencing negative emotion, like despair, envy, insecurity, anger, sadness, etc. can become an unintentional habit.

Like other habits, increased awareness of your thinking can help to break the pattern. However, there’s much to be learned from the experience. For example, your feelings of envy can be quite instructional in terms of your true desires. Likewise, understanding who you’re comparing yourself to and why can also provide insights into what is going on in your mind.

In the end, most would agree that shifting your energy more toward appreciation and gratitude for your improved thought awareness skills and commitment to mindfulness practice will get you farther ahead on the road to becoming the woman you want to be, living midlife on purpose!

Enjoy this episode!

Featured on the Podcast:

Ep 139: Five Ways to Use Envy for Good


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