If you would have told me in my 40s that I would be a midlife coach with a popular podcast reaching over 1 million+ women after I turned 50, I would have never believed you.
Midlife can be many things, and one of those things is “jarring.” For the longest time, I wasn’t stuck at all. I was a happy camper in life and at work.
My career was based in something I was always fascinated by, why we humans we do what we do; I even wrote about this way back in 1981, in the little blurb next to my graduation photo in my high school yearbook, lol.
So, it’s really no surprise that my passion led me to study behavior. My MA in Applied Social Psychology honed my listening skills and opened the door to a 27 year career in public health and health education.
But in my late 40s, something changed.
I was bored and no longer content. Although I loved my career, I found myself feeling quite stuck about the time I turned 50. I really craved working one-on-one with people and that wasn’t something my career offered me.
I wanted more. I felt it deep inside.
And…I was afraid of having regrets.
Midlife can be hard. Turning 50 can be jarring.
Turning 50 was a bit of a wake up call for me to get unstuck because I really wasn’t content anymore. I couldn’t ignore it.
But I didn’t know how to reimagine my life.
I realized I didn’t believe that the best was yet to come. Do you?
When I think back, I was deeply stuck in autopilot living year after year, especially from 45 – 50 years old. I didn’t know anyone who was a midlife coach. I was just doing the same thing, feeling “blah” and not knowing what to do about it.
The interesting thing was, I didn’t even know that I didn’t believe that the best was yet to come.
My belief was that life was going go downhill from here. As you can see, with that kind of belief, I was stuck.
Being stuck didn’t feel right.
I felt confused, unclear and unsure.
Deep down, I knew something had to change. I just didn’t have the tools to figure out what.
Now, as a 59 year old midlife coach myself, I know that it’s common with midlife gals. You want to get unstuck and make a change but don’t know what you want or how to get there.
I know how you feel; I felt the same way. That’s why I know that you can no longer ignore your own drive to get going, thrive and grow. You don’t know how to get unstuck and it’s such a waste of time. You’re ready to get unstuck.
Now that you’re older, you know deep down that there’s more out there for you, but you’re really unsure about how to find the meaning you’re looking for. You know you need to get unstuck though; things can’t stay the same.
The coaching work that we do together is absolutely transformative. You’ll go from feeling like you’re trudging through mud to feeling like you’re swimming in the crystal blue water of the Caribbean. It’s that much of a change!
You owe it to yourself to get unstuck in midlife. Midlife coaching is life-changing.
Can you relate to being afraid of having regrets?
I didn’t want to have regrets about what I didn’t do, didn’t say, didn’t try or didn’t change. BUT…I was so fearful of change. Especially my job.
Does your job look great on paper but it’s boring you to tears too, like mine was? I don’t know about you, but I was withering away, just passing the time. Oddly enough, I couldn’t get my head around leaving.
Golden handcuffs can get really tight! I was afraid to leave. And I let five years go by.
Yes…five years. How much time have you wasted?
The gift I couldn’t give myself: Midlife lay off
Then one day…I got a fateful knock at my office door. I was being laid off. Totally harsh, but wow, it opened up the possibility for me to make the change I really wanted but was too fearful to make on my own.
This is why I get what you’re going through.
I was there too. I know first-hand what it’s like to feel confused and fearful about change. I also know what it’s like to bust through.
When you’re stuck: Is it a midlife crisis or midlife funk?
When I wanted to get unstuck, it didn’t quite feel like a classic midlife crisis, but something was really off; I was smack dab in the middle of a midlife funk.
I hired a life coach.
What followed was my absolute shock at just how effective and profound the whole coaching experience was. I knew I needed to understand more about how this process of learning to manage my mind helped me so quickly.
The coaching started about the time I turned 50 and also helped me realize I had to do some regret-proofing myself.
I could see that with my kids now a bit older, I had a chance to breathe…
…and could finally do some serious thinking about what I wanted;
…and I was ready to allow myself to be happier;
…and could also figure out how to live intentionally myself.
Turning 50 also gave me insight into my career. I knew I had more to give and people to help. I asked my coach where she trained and registered at the same school right away.
Reinventing myself: Training as a Master Life Coach & Midlife Mentor in my 50s
Today, I’m a Master Certified Life Coach & Midlife Mentor, trained at The Life Coach School. I’ve been doing this amazing work since 2014 and have never looked back. I’ve had so many new and fulfilling experiences, including being a coach certification instructor, author, speaker, and podcast host!
The bottom line is…I’m on a mission to help women get excited about their lives again and am having a great time doing it!
As the host of the popular podcast Women in the Middle®, with over 280 episodes and over 1.2 million downloads and counting, I’ve connected and helped 1000s of amazing women who want more and are ready to put finally put themselves first and allow themselves to be happy.
The Women in the Middle Academy is a six month, online coaching program for midlife women, like you, who are ready to get unstuck and live their best life. With powerful curriculum, coaching and community, it’s a transformational experience to help you get excited about your next chapter because, there’s way more fun to be had!
And most recently, I’m excited to share that I’m also a Certified Zentangle ® Teacher (CZT) and am thrilled to bring the Zentangle Method, an easy-to-learn, relaxing and fun way to do “mindful doodling” and create beautiful images by drawing structured patterns, to the Women in the Middle Academy! This method is accessible creativity, something the women in my community crave. It is mindfulness practice at your fingertips!
I’ve also written a book, 50 Ways to Celebrate Life after 50: Get Unstuck, Avoid Regrets and Live your Life!
I discovered that I wasn’t alone in feeling so stuck and frustrated at this point in my life.
I sensed there was more out there for me.
Just like you do.
You don’t have to have a midlife crisis; change your mindset about possibility and change your life!
I could finally see that these new ideas, training and doors opening were OPPORTUNITIES for happiness!
It was the first step in opening my mind up to all sorts of possibilities, even being this age.
One opportunity surprised me because it was something from my childhood.
I found myself reflecting more about what brought me joy as a kid. When I was young, my family bred and showed St. Bernards. I had such fond and happy memories of this brief time in my life. I started to think. I started to dream.
And before I knew it, I was the mommy of a big, hairy Newf named Niko. Newfs are quite similar to St. Bernards but they are a water rescue breed, which is perfect for us because we spend time on a lake.
Having Niko in my life is a way to not only share a bit of my past with my kids, but also bring back and enjoy many of my most favorite memories as a kid. I love that my family is growing up with a slobbery and lovable friend like Niko. And…you never know what will happen when you dream BIG! An empty nest dog just might be in your future!
This insight about connecting with something that I wanted in my life, on purpose, was only the beginning.
You can do this too!
As a midlife coach, I love helping my clients get results that are life-changing.
I want to live in a world where aging is cool and thinking about possibility is fun. There’s so much you can create for yourself when you’re more intentional with your thinking. Now, I’m more creative, having more fun and more fulfilled than ever before.
I have skills and tools to help YOU get excited about your life too.
It’s all about regret-proofing on purpose!
Mindfulness can change your life at any stage. But coaching can help you take back control of designing the life you want.
Are you ready to finally see what you want? To have it become crystal clear?
Can you imagine this? Are you ready to “lean in” to creating this in your life?
Are you ready for change?
That’s really what it comes down to.
Life is way too short for regrets.
You will regret having regrets. We all will.
So let’s make sure that doesn’t happen!
Here’s how to get started
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