A little over 10 years ago, my mom and I had an enlightening conversation.
“Well” she said. “It took me 30 years, but I finally did it.”
“What do you mean?” I asked.
“I finally lost my baby weight.” she answered.
I didn’t know how to respond. I laughed of course….and then I paused. My youngest sister was 30 years old and apparently, that’s how long it took. Those years went by in a blink! If my youngest sister was 30, that meant I was 40 and I was also struggling with baby weight. OMG – 30 years??????
What that conversation showed me though, was that even now, with five adult children, my mom was still quite oriented toward her kids in her thinking. She still considered her weight gain due to baby weight.
My baby is 16 and I’m still carrying my baby weight. That also means that I’ve been unhappy with my weight and wasted time thinking about it for approximately 5,840 days. Unbelievable.
I totally get where my mom was coming from.
This begs the question: Where does the time go?
How did 16 years go by since my last child was born?
How much time do we take time for granted?
How much time do we waste?
I was laid off from a part-time job I had for 19 years. After I had some time to think about what happened and make some plans for the future, I realized I hadn’t been content for at least five years. That was 4,830 hours that I could have been doing something else.
I remember seeing a fascinating video using jelly beans to illustrate a typical American lifespan. It really drives this point home.
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When I turned 50, I felt like I got smacked upside my head with this question. It was like a giant, loud and loving BONK! The “baby weight” and observation about not being content in my job were just two epiphanies; there were more.
That was just the beginning of my transition into living a more intentional life. I started to really think about what I wanted to do and became very aware of how much I responded to the demands of others. We all do.
Now in my 50s, I’m keenly aware of the importance of making the midlife chapter a more intentional one! That’s what life coaching with me is all about.
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