A New Way to Be Hot in Midlife

For the first time in midlife, I want to be hot.

blog midlife heat hotIt’s the strangest thing.

I never saw this coming.

I resisted it at first.

But I couldn’t avoid the cold hard truth that in Toronto, a cold winter is coming and there’s nothing I can do about it.

Or is there?

Enter…the elusive patio heater.

Like you, in my family, we’re spending as much time socializing outside, social distancing on the patio.

Thank goodness being outside is a great option during Covid, right?

Early on when we were just realizing the reality of the pandemic, it made sense to improve our outdoor space, so I made the patio option a bit nicer than it was before. Made perfect sense.

I went with yellow pillows and some new cushions to brighten up the space a bit.

Love it.

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All of us enjoyed having that extra, comfortable space this summer.

My kids were having patio dates.

We set up the old folding camping table for outside strategy games.

I had a friend over for a patio lunch date.

It has been a great solution.

It’s easy for friends to pop by. It’s right out in front.

When a friend walks by, we can yell “hello” and invite them over for a “stop and chat” with ease!

It’s been great!


Anyone who deals with cold winter weather understands what’s coming…

So when I thought about how I could extend our patio party, I got all excited about the concept of a patio heater.

It seemed so strange.

I’m never looking for MORE HEAT.

Never was. But menopause only made it worse.

I’m always looking to cool down. Most women our age would agree. We want to be COOL.

But a patio heater might be just the thing.

A way to be outside longer.

I never cared this much before.  I guess because travel was always an option. To change things up. To get outside. To break up the winter.

But now I want one. I want a patio heater. I want it bad.

And guess what?

Not so easy.

Sold out.

Taking orders only.

Looks like I wasn’t the only one with this great idea.

But I’m a good shopper. I knew I could do this.

I got to work.

I was persistent and I’m happy to say that in three weeks, we’ll have a patio heater.

And I will go out of my way to get more heat.

And it will be good.

Who would have thunk it?

Me, a heat-repelling, post-menopausal 57 year old woman intentionally seeking a heat source.

Sometimes you have to question your long held beliefs.

I’m excited to be a HOT WOMAN IN THE MIDDLE!

How about you? Does this resonate? I know I’m not alone.  And you shouldn’t feel alone either. Come join us in the Finally First Club. It’s your virtual home away from home for coaching, community and connection. We’re waiting for you!



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