Insecurity was alive and well at a conference recently; I was surrounded by really successful women. It’s funny the way insecurity pops up in our lives. At this conference, no one looked particularly insecure. In fact, I thought everyone looked completely confident and happy. I would say they looked “normal.” Not any smarter than...
Continue readingThe long-term job—a blessing and a curse
Who knew that my long-term job could be both a blessing and a curse? I never even imagined I would be the type to have a long-term job. Seriously. It didn’t seem like something that would have my name on it. I landed my first professional job in 1989. I remember it well. I...
Continue readingTurning 50? Lots of ways to leave your 40s
Turning 50 is so interesting. On just about every level. I hate the idea of a “bucket list when you turn 50.” Really, it turns me off. It’s not that I don’t want to embrace the fact that I’m growing older. I just don’t like the idea of talking about things I really want...
Continue readingMidlife on the farm
What do a couple of hair stylists, beautiful farmland and amazing animals have in common? The answer may surprise you. I had the pleasure of going to a B and B this weekend, in rural Ontario. It’s funny…the reason I was there with a girlfriend wasn’t because we had a great idea to get...
Continue readingAfraid to leave your “good” job because of golden handcuffs?
My job situation felt like golden-handcuffs. When someone referred to our work situation as “golden handcuffs,” I totally understood what she meant. My job was too good to leave. When I was 18, I had a summer job at a bank. My job was to verify income claims of credit card applicants. Because of...
Continue readingWhen the solution to the problem means you escape
Have you heard about these escape rooms? It’s a cool new way to have some good, clean fun with teenagers. Well, I hadn’t heard of them but my kids sure did. They are actually called “escape rooms”. Essentially, they are games where real people go into a real room and try to get out...
Continue readingWhen we don’t do what we really, really want to do
It’s hard to admit that sometimes we don’t do what we really, really want to do. Sometimes we think we know why. Sometimes we have no clue. Sometimes we aren’t connected to our thoughts or feelings at all, and answers seem so far away. Sometimes, however, it’s clear. It’s fear. Plain ol’ sick to...
Continue readingWhat motivates you? It’s probably been the same most of your life!
I was always motivated to to help people. I’ve been fascinated by human behaviour my whole life. Thinking about what motivates you is a really important thing to do. Like you, life gets in the way. Before I knew it, a few decades went by and I realized I wasn’t doing exactly what I...
Continue readingWhat are you thinking about?
Think about what it would be like to: Be passionate about the work you’re doing Know that you won’t have regrets about what you didn’t do Wake up actually excited about what you’re about to accomplish But instead, you’re thinking these types of thoughts: Wow…I’m wasting so much time in this job I’m bored...
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