Habits can be hard to break. Especially in midlife. Do you know how habits develop? Habits are just practiced behavior that eventually become involuntary; midlife habits can be hard to break. Whatever you practice becomes a habit. What you practice DOING becomes a habit. What you practice NOT DOING also becomes a habit. This...
Continue readingMindfulness: Do your thoughts need supervision?
Do you practice mindfulness? The concept that your thoughts need supervision is something I learned in Thomas M. Sterner’s book, The Practicing Mind: Developing Focus and Discipline in your Life. It’s all about mindfulness and it’s a powerful concept at all ages and stages, not just midlife. It’s also a concept that gives you...
Continue readingAre you hiding from change?
You’ve been thinking about making a change. So much so that the change itself has become noisy chatter in your mind. It comes and goes, but it’s there. You hear it even though you’re hiding. It’s not constant, but you hear it. You try to ignore it when you notice it. Sometimes you can....
Continue readingTop 4 ways retired friends can be good for your health
I’m only 53 and am surrounded by retired friends. I love having friends of all ages. Lately, I find myself going to retirement parties just as frequently as 50th birthday parties and baby showers! It’s a phase of life that I know less about and I’m fascinated to learn more. Just fascinated. Not because...
Continue readingHow to leave food on your plate
People who know me well are quite aware of my love of seafood. I really love eating at seafood restaurants. I guess the bottom line is that I love when someone else makes food for me. Don’t we all? My aunt and uncle from Palm Springs share this love and took me to a...
Continue reading3 Lessons I Learned from Being Laid Off
My three year anniversary after being laid off from a long-term job is this month. It’s hard to believe that so much time has gone by. I held five positions in the field of health promotion, addiction and mental health for 25 years. I had the last job for 19 of those 25 years....
Continue readingWhat are you too old to do?
What do you think you shouldn’t do, wear or be now that you’re older? I bet you want to think that you’re never too old to do whatever you want, no matter your age. But I’m curious if that’s really honest. There’s a lot of talk in the news right now about an outfit...
Continue readingBig dogs and little owners: How I avoided a midlife crisis
Dogs were always part of my life. Big dogs, little dogs, slobbery dogs, messy dogs. The works. My family bred St. Bernards when I was a young child. We did the dog show thing too and I showed in the puppy class. My dad even became a dog show judge. Having five St. Bernards...
Continue readingWhen being green with envy is a good thing
Have you ever had that not-so-wonderful shade of “green envy” wash over your body? You know what I mean. It was a time that you noticed you actually felt green with envy, or inadequate or envious because you wanted what someone else had. Now that you’re older, you may have even thought that...
Continue readingWill you choose not to have regrets?
Regrets, I’ve had a few But then again, too few to mention I did what I had to do and saw it through without exemption I planned each charted course, each careful step along the byway And more, much more than this, I did it my way You recognize the lyrics, right? Frank Sinatra...
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