• Why Suzy revisited one of her most personal stories and what she finally saw in it that she’d never connected before, even after years of teaching this material
• How losing both parents unexpectedly at a young age and a frightening violation of safety in high school quietly shaped decades of decision-making, and why seeing that connection for the first time felt like relief
• Why fear in midlife rarely feels like fear, and why it almost always feels responsible, sensible, and realistic instead
• The specific ways fear can show up for women in their late 50s and 60s: the trip not taken, the opportunity declined, the class never signed up for and why none of them feel like fear at the time
• The upgraded Forks in the Road exercise (four steps to go back through your life, find the pattern, and see fear that felt like a solid reason)
• The single most important question to ask at every fork in the road: does the fear still make sense today?
• A powerful coaching question that temporarily removes fear from the equation entirely and what’s left when it does
• Six concrete questions to interrupt the fear pattern at your next fork in the road, before it makes the decision for you
• Why your inner “mean girl” has no place in this exercise and how compassion for your past self is what makes this work so powerful for you
• Why the decisions ahead, like retirement, identity, empty nest, relationships, time, etc., deserve to be made by you and not by a fear formed decades ago

Welcome to another episode of the Women in the Middle® Podcast!

Most of us know what a fork in the road feels like. You’ve got a heavy decision to make. There are at least two possible paths. And when you’re at the fork, you know it’s time to choose which way to go and that you will have to live with your choice.

What can be so surprising is how often fear has been driving the decision-making over the years. Not us. Fear. Dressed up as reason, responsibility, and common sense.

In this episode, Suzy revisits the Forks in the Road concept from Episode 335 but takes it somewhere much deeper. She shares a personal realization she had recently about her own 1982 fork in the road, when she was accepted into a university program in the Caribbean and turned it down. She’d told that story before. But this time, she finally connected it to experiences from earlier in her life that explained, clearly and with compassion, why that fear made complete sense at the time…and as an older and wiser woman over 40 years later, why it may no longer apply to the woman she is now.

From there, Suzy walks through what fear at the forks can look like for women in their late 50s and 60s. You might be familiar with this experience…it’s when you have responsible-sounding reasons that are actually self-protection in disguise.

You’ll also hear about the upgraded Forks in the Road exercise with the fear lens applied. The result is a four-step process that goes beyond insight into decision-making patterns and into something more meaningful: genuine compassion for why you made the choices you did, and a clearer path to making the next ones from desire rather than protection.

This is one of the most personal episodes Suzy has recorded. And one of the most useful.

Mentioned in This Episode:

• Podcast Episode 335: Curiosity and Insight from Forks in the Road in Midlife
• Podcast Episode 463: Envy for Good™ — The Unexpected Tool for Figuring Out What You Really Want
• Get Unstuck: Midlife Clarity Fast & Easy Masterclass → www.midliferoadmap.com
• Next Chapter Direction Session → www.talktosuzy.com

Connect with Suzy

Midlife Doodle-Think™ Club: Join us! Slow down with Zentangle-inspired doodling. As a Certified Zentangle® Teacher (CZT), I invite you to slow down and create a space to think. Doodle-Think™ is about a simple, mindful doodling practice for midlife women who want more presence, clarity and confidence; no art skills or creative talent required!www.doodlethink.com

Next Chapter Direction Session Free: A Private 50-Minute Conversation to Help You Get Clear on What You Want Now. If something in your life feels a little off, unclear, or out of sync…this is where you figure out what’s really going on and what you want to do about it. This insightful session is designed to help you see where you may be getting in your own way and how I might be able to help you turn the page on your next chapter! Book Now:www.talktosuzy.com

Midlife QUIZ: Take the free “Next Chapter Midlife Quiz” to discover if your next chapter is trying to get your attention! It only takes about 90 seconds!www.midlifequiz.com

Masterclass — Get Unstuck: Midlife Clarity Fast & Easy: Take this fun DIY midlife masterclass and get clear about your next chapter priorities without spin, confusion and overwhelm in less than an hour!www.midliferoadmap.com

Work with Me — Group Coaching, Women in the Middle Academy: Learn to start living like time matters…because it does! The Academy helps you do this in a 12 month group format that includes coaching, community, creativity and connection. Get unstuck and create your happiness blueprint for your future! Apply now:www.womeninthemiddleacademy.com

Private Coaching — Limited Availability: Midlife transformation coaching is the fastest way to rediscover joy and purpose after 50! Regret-Proof Private Coaching to get unstuck, clear and excited about your life again. Available in 3 month, 6 month and 1 year options. Book your free, no obligation Momentum Call here.

Download Suzy’s eBook — 50 Ways to Celebrate Life after 50: Get unstuck, avoid regrets, and live your best life:www.50waystocelebrate.com and Amazon

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