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Is this your year to turn 50? NEW CONTEST

Who’s turning 50 next year? In midlife, one thing’s for sure.

Regardless of how freaked out you are about it, you are likely to give this milestone birthday your full respect.

Turning 50 is a big one.

So, my wonderful midlife friends, we gotta talk about this.

Let’s get this party started.

Yes…

It’s a party.

Let’s start right there.

The lead up.

The way you’ve been thinking about this looming birthday.

What are you thinking about it?

Anything positive?

Not much I bet.

I remember that the lead up to my 50th birthday started slowly.

First, I just barely caught a glimpse of what was coming down the pike. Probably around 45. That’s when I started to think, hmmmm, “I’m getting up there.”

I was so miserable at work that I didn’t really think about it much between 46 and 49. But that 49th year…that one was different for me. Are you with me?

I actually “saw” it out there.

Looming.

On the horizon.

And it felt pretty different than any other birthday.

I could sense its significance.

Even though 50 isn’t really middle age for most, it really feels like a middle-age milestone.

I turned 50 about 4 years ago. For me, I started to think about things I hadn’t done yet that I really thought I would have done by 50.

For example, I thought I would have lost my baby weight by 50…and instead, one of my babies was heading off to university and those 30 lbs were still on me.

I thought I would have been self-employed by 50. True, I had dabbled with entrepreneurial ventures here and there throughout the years but nothing that significant.

I also thought I would have gone to the Grand Canyon by 50.

That’s what I mean. At 40 I remember being pretty satisfied with my stage and accomplishments thus far. But gearing up to 50, I started to think about things that I might have regrets if I didn’t get around to doing these things.

What’s on your mind now that you see 50 coming at ya?

And for you ladies who are over 50, take a minute and think back to that particularly interesting year. Do you remember what you were thinking?

Were you happy or sad?

Most people aren’t happy.

Even though sayings like “age is just a number” roll off the tip of your tongue, it’s hard to get past it sometimes.

With all of the mindfulness work we do together in this blog though, you know that age really just is a neutral number. It’s like weight. It’s just a fact.

But what we make it mean is a different story.

If you make 50 mean that you’ve peaked already and it’s downhill from here, you’ll feel completely different than if you make it mean that you’re just getting started.

This is when a midlife funk typically kicks in too.

And it’s certainly something my clients talk to me about. In fact, many of them are turning 50 and recognize that something’s off.

They start to feel that life’s just passing them by and are tired of feeling stuck.

They are super frustrated too. Frustrated and stagnant.

So in a way, having 50 looming as you’re leading up to it can also be a bit of a catalyst for change.

You see it there…and you know you want to shake things up a bit more than what’s currently happening in your life.

Especially if you’ve been in a long term job.

You can really get ancy.

That’s another thing that was going on with me. I had the same job for almost 19 years. I was really feeling stagnant and just itching for a mentor. For something exciting to happen professionally.

And that’s when I got laid off.

That shook things up for sure! It was the best thing ever and it’s how I discovered coaching.

It’s so important to check in with yourself as you are approaching this milestone birthday and gauge how you’re feeling.

If you’re feeling off, or frustrated, or sad, know that it’s a thought that’s creating those feelings. And it just may have something to do with what you’re making turning 50 mean.

There was something that was pretty fun about facebook actually.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve reconnected with a fair number of people from high school. And guess what? You all turn 50 the same year. It was fun to be turning 50 with a group of people that I knew even a little bit.

So I guess what I’m saying is that you need to be aware of what’s going on “up there” in your mind as you’re starting to think about turning 50.

These thoughts will create your feelings. If you notice your feelings first, that’s also fine. Then just be aware that you’re feeling the way you’re feeling because of what you’re thinking. They go hand in hand and the more you can sort it all out, the more control you have, which is a very, very good thing.

I would also highly recommend that you gradually start giving some thought to creating the experience you want for your actual birthday.

You may just want to decide how you want to celebrate your actual birthday. Otherwise, you might end up with a surprise party or something else that is not what you really want to do.

Whatever it is, make sure it’s what you want.

Give thought to the people you want to celebrate with.

Also think about the thing you want to be doing.

I would like to suggest that IT DOES matter.  Don’t just fluff it off as unimportant.

Do what you want, for sure.

Pretty much all of what I’ve been talking about so far is mindset related. And that’s really what’s so important about this milestone, in my opinion anyway.

You can turn 50 stomping your feet and throwing a tantrum, OR…

You can turn 50 with a smile on your face, being grateful and content with the way you’re spending your time on this planet.

I like to go even one step further though.

I’d like to suggest that you approach 50 with unbridled excitement about the opportunities you will create for yourself.

How about that?

I’m really not into the whole bucket list concept.

Really, it turns me off

It’s not that I don’t want to embrace the fact that I’m growing older.

It’s not that I don’t love to plan cool things.

It’s just that I just don’t like the idea of talking about things I really WANT to do in the same breath as running out of time to do them!

We all know that the more mindful we are of what we want, the more likely we are to actually get what we want. That’s because we have to nail down the thoughts we need to practice to create the results we want.

It won’t happen by accident.

It won’t happen by luck.

You have to be intentional about what you want to do in your life…what you want to create for yourself.

It’s really up to you.

Be mindful of your thoughts as your thinking about how you want your life to be going forward.

You may hesitate when certain ideas come to mind. Ask yourself why?

What are your thoughts about that idea, that dream?

Do you judge it right away?

Do you tell yourself it’s out of reach?

How does writing that dream down make you feel?

The way you feel is directly related to your thoughts about that idea.

This is where things get interesting because your thoughts may need some work. But remember, it’s all OK because your thoughts are optional.

You can do the work!

And that, my friends, is the number one thing you really must do before you turn 50.

You really have to shine the biggest flashlight you can find on your brain and work to increase your awareness of your thinking so you can feel how you want to feel about turning 50, and about your life going forward.

Please don’t leave something this important up to chance or up to anyone else.

You can do you, the best way you know how. Let this milestone birthday help wake you up to all that’s possible.

To help get things started, I’m excited to tell you about my brand new contest!

It’s called 50 UNPLUGGED CONTEST and you need to enter right away if you’re turning 50 in 2018!

All you have to do is tell me three things. The contest will run throughout 2018.

  1. The number one thing you really, really want to do after you turn 50

2. Why you want to do it

3. And how you going to make sure you do it, no matter what.

Tell me these three things on your entry form and you could win a guest spot on my podcast, Women in the Middle or some free coaching. In fact, one lucky winner will win my 3 month one on one coaching package called 9 Steps to Regret Proof Your Life (valued at approximately $2000)

To the contest, click here to fill out your entry form at www.suzyrosenstein.com/50unpluggedcontest. I can’t wait to see what you’re dreaming about! I will be pulling together your responses to share with other women turning 50 so we can all sail into our 50s with big fat smiles on our faces.

Who knew turning 50 could be so much fun?

Want to hear the podcast about Turning 50? Click here!

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Suzy Rosenstein

Suzy Rosenstein has been honing her laser sharp questioning and listening skills professionally for over 25 years. She coaches working women get out of their midlife funk so that they can be happier and regret-proof their lives! Enter your email today on her website for some quick tips and weekly insights about aging with mindfulness and humor: www.suzyrosenstein.com/midlifefunk